Rekindling Your Spirit

THE ACHE…Is there something more?
Do you ever wonder if there is more to life than what you are experiencing? Rekindling Your Spirit will reveal the root of your heart’s ache for life as it was meant to be. This ground-breaking book offers a radical and compelling vision of what it means to enter your ache and become increasingly filled and empowered at the core of your being.

THE HOPE…Better days ahead.
There are better days ahead if you have the courage and integrity to face your story—past and present. The hope is in experiencing God’s love, and strength which results in lasting personal change, deep authentic intimacy, and clean sensual sexuality.

THE INVITATION…Transformation awaits.
Life is meant to be a journey of tender intimacy and strong companionship with God and others. When you accept this invitation to face your story and discover God, you’ll experience the Spirit’s transformational power to rekindle your passion, giftedness, and purpose. Don’t wait any longer—begin your journey today!

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“Singh’s book penetrates through layers of self-protection and avoidance and gets to the core issues. Rekindling Your Spirit is a gold-mine and a real break-through book for a generation desperate for real answers. Read it once for your mind; a second time for your heart; and a third time for your thirsty soul.”

DAN SCHMITT
SENIOR PASTOR
ADORATION CHURCH, SAVAGE, MN

Table of Contents

Prelude to a Journey
In search of passion, giftedness, and purpose

Stage One: Defining the Journey
Recognizing the emptiness in your human spirit

Stage Two: Telling Your Story
Making sense of your pain and its impact

Stage Three: Your Story Unfolded
Facing how you betray others, yourself, and God

Stage Four: Waging War
Three spiritual attacks in the daily battle

Interlude
Spiritual Homecoming Is at Hand!

Stage Five: Opening Your Heart to God
Finding your way to your Abba Father

Stage Six: Lasting Personal Change
Three spiritual tools for the journey

Stage Seven: Healing Your Story
The art of asking, receiving, and extending forgiveness

Stage Eight: Turning from Idolatry
Recognizing the mark of Baal in your life

Stage Nine: Experiencing Holy Sexuality
Finding ecstasy in your intimacy

Stage Ten: The Art of Intimate Worship
Living in awe and gratitude

Stage Eleven: Releasing Passion, Giftedness, and Purpose
Living in sacred intimacy with God

Stage Twelve: The Journey Together
Living in authentic intimacy with others

Postlude to a Journey
Living out your spiritual homecoming

“It is with great enthusiasm that I commend to you the book Rekindling Your Spirit, A Spiritual Journey into Personal Change, Intimacy, and Sexuality by Paul Singh. Paul brings to his ministry a rare, but effective, blend of therapeutic excellence and theological depth.

When my wife, Bonnie, and I went to see Paul Singh for counseling and embarked on the twelve stages of spiritual homecoming, the journey led to grace, healing, repentance, and more grace. Beyond his technical expertise, Paul brings a gentle touch that’s full of grace. When we begin to honestly look at the core issues of our lives, marriages, and families, it can be quite frightening. I believe that God has given Paul a special gift, not only to touch those core issues, but then to bathe them in healing grace.

Above all, his ministry is marked by a quiet, but confident, expectation that God can touch and heal the wounded heart. I hope you will take this homecoming journey and through it come to life over and over again, as we did.”

David Johnson
Senior Pastor, Church of the Open Door
Maple Grove, Minnesota

“Rekindling Your Spirit—This book set the stage for the unforgettable experience of the conference where God’s anointing on pastor Paul Singh and his team drew us up and out of ourselves to the cross of Christ again and again. Through a spectacular blending of fervent worship, biblical instruction, and Spirit-led prayer ministry, my relationship with Christ was profoundly deepened and sweetened.”

Tom Steller
Pastor for leadership development
Bethlehem Baptist church, Minneapolis, MN

Paul Singh knows the Father Heart of God. He communicates fatherhood in his teaching, in his bearing as a pastor, and in his whole approach to healing and Christian formation. He also knows how to make the glories of Christian theology practical and accessible to people who are wounded by sin. Moreover, Paul is an encourager, a Barnabas, to both men and women who long to be more effective channels of Christ’s love to others.

Valerie McIntyre
Author of Sheep in Wolves’ Clothing (Baker Books, 1999)
Associate of Leanne Payne (Pastoral Care Ministries, 1992-2004)

“Paul takes discipleship to a new level as he gently and skillfully enters the mess of the human heart. His words flow from his desire to enable followers of Jesus to invite the Holy Spirit to clear away the debris of lies, idols and bondages that keep them from living with the passion, purpose and freedom they were designed to know. Re-kindling Your Spirit is a “must read” for all who desire authentic change and are tired of trying harder to make it happen.”

Marilyn Gnekow
Navigator Staff
Minneapolis Metro Team

Dealing with the brokenness and pain that are common to humankind, Rekindling Your Spirit delves beneath the waterline, below the iceberg-tip symptoms to the deep issues of soul and spirit that drive addiction - and offers hope. There is such concrete and personal content here, real-life application of the theology of atonement and sanctification. The material is not difficult to understand, but it is difficult to look deeply into one’s own soul and relationships and see the wreckage that exists - not just the pain done TO me, but worse, my own sinful and damaging responses. The chapters are potently able to disrupt long-standing patterns of self-deception, self-absorption, and codependency, and lead to the grace, healing, and peace of God.

Rekindling Your Spirit is best read slowly, honestly, and in the company of a few intimate friends who will join in the journey of spiritual growth and change. The Christian Gospel really is true; and transformation really is possible.

Margaret A. Lang
Church of the Open Door
Maple Grove, Minnesota

Foreword

My wife and I have known Paul and Beth Singh for almost twenty years. We were part of their engagement process way back at Grace Theological Seminary where I was a full-time Old Testament professor in the 1980s and an intern in the Master of Counseling program. Paul was a student in the counseling program there as well. We became close friends. We both studied under Larry Crabb and Dan Allender in the field of counseling. I also had the privilege of teaching Old Testament studies to their counseling students, having already received a PhD in Old Testament and Ancient Near Eastern studies before embarking on the master’s degree in counseling. Paul and I have journeyed together since that time. He calls me his mentor in counseling and biblical studies, and it is true that our relationship has had much to do with that. But we are also true friends and colleagues. And I have learned from Paul too.

I have experienced Paul as a courageously honest person, willing and often eager to deal with the struggles in his own life and soul. It has been a privilege to be involved with Paul all these years on this level. He has invited me into his heart and allowed me to be part of the work of God there, and this is no small thing. Along the way he has become a duly licensed and extremely gifted psychologist who practices what he counsels, teaches, and preaches. Many would give testimony to his effectiveness in personal and marriage counseling. His seminars and conferences have been a gift to the lives of people and, therefore, to the Kingdom of God.

Over the years we have also walked through the twelve stages of the journey into rekindling our spirits for personal change, intimacy, and sexuality that Paul writes about in this volume. This too is a gift to people and to the Kingdom of God. He cares very deeply about what happens in the lives of people and their marriages. His passion comes through in this book, as does his electrifying way of expressing himself. Paul is an artist with words as much as he is with drawings. His writing is literally and literarily filled with images. The word pictures are just as dynamic and full of impact as the illustrations that are heavily seeded throughout this book. He uses arrows, knives, fire, and idolatrous (Baal) worship, among other images, to speak in penetrating ways about the realities that we experience as fallen people living in a fallen world with other fallen people, determined to make our way through the maze of life intact. He writes about what we do in our body, soul, and spirit to handle what we face. He knows about these things from looking deeply into Scripture, his own life, and the lives of others. There is no lack of personal experience or professional acumen and realism.This is a book about real things in the lives of real people, and he pulls no punches. This is a “no holds barred” jump into everyday reality. It is not just a reality show, but instead a show of reality. This book, however, does not just take us into the pain of reality, but through that pain into the reality of the God who is with us in the midst of it all and ready, willing, and able to help and transform us through it, whether we know it or not. There is divine help right in the midst of the pain that we feel and that others feel because of us. It is the Father’s willful intention to transform us into the image of Jesus His Son through the empowerment of the Holy Spirit:

. . . the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know
what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes
for us with groans that words cannot express.
And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the
Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in
accordance with God’s will. And we know that in all
things God works for the good of those who love him,
who have been called according to his purpose. For those
God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the
likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among
many brothers.
(Romans 8:26-29, NIV, emphasis added).

This is what the Father, Son, and Spirit are all about, as three in one. It is a Trinitarian work of God in our lives, and it is fully available to us right now where we are. A big part of this book is about how to take this divine intent and transforming power into our lives right here and now.

So this book is about us as individuals and about God. It is also about our relationships with one another. Paul has brought all three together in a very helpful way. We cannot deal with our own selves well without God’s transforming work in our lives, and our relationships with others depend on this work of God between us too. God has not designed us to live alone, but in relationship with other people. And the most core of all human relationships is the man and woman marriage bond (Genesis 2:18-25). God designed it as the first and foremost human relational institution. There is no substitute for it. A good part of this book is about taking on the challenges of this relationship in our fallen condition—the personal, relational, and sexual challenges. There are joys untold available in this man and woman bond, and Paul Singh does his best to tell about how to go after them. He is worth listening to. May the Lord bless you as you embark on the journey with him.

Richard E. Averbeck, PhD, LPC
Professor of Old Testament and Semitic Languages,
Trinity Evangelical Divinity School
and
Director, Spiritual Formation Forum
The Eve before Crucifixion Day, April 13, 2006